Anyone date/marry a woman with BPD (borderline personality disorder)

[spartanfan53]

My wife of 4 years was just diagnosed with bpd. Up until the last year things have been tolerable as far as her craziness but the last 10 months or so she has really been riding the crazy train consistently.
I have been told there is no therapy or medication to keep it at the least under control.
Her impulsiveness and up and down mood swings are currently out of control.
I really love the woman she is when she has her shit together but when she is riding that bpd train things are insanely bad.
Have any of you had experience with this and how did you handle it ?

 

[michael777]

I am not good with writing or words,but here it goes.I dated a bipolar woman for 2 years,then got engaged,95% of the time,she was wonderful,the 5% of the time was pure hell,verbal and physical abuse,depressed days,and manic days.Took here to many doctors,always switching meds,they help for awhile it seems,then wear off,she never missed taking her meds.People say that as long as the person is on there meds they are ok,NOT TRUE!! As time went on in the relationship,she got worse,throwing objects at me,took a few swings at me,more laying in bed all day,more up all night in a manic state,stopped talking to her dad and 2 sons.I did all i could for her,i could not help her,finally broke up with her as out of the blue,in the left lane driving about 70,she took a swing at me,somehow i kept control of the car and decided enough was enough.I always took her back the next day after she would cry and make all the apologies,but i have had enough.A really good person most of the time,but when she went off,LOOK OUT! I hate to say it spartanfan,but i don't think things will work out for you,it's just pure hell when dealing with a bipolar person,stay safe,God bless

 

[michael777]

I always hoped for better times with her,but it never happened,i thought maybe a new med would work,nope.The sex was fantastic by the way!!! I was a fool to stay in the relationship that long,but live and learn i guess,broke up 3 years ago,glad i'm still alive

 

[bigbet1234]

There is a lot better treatment for BPD nowadays. Research and find a good doctors and it is very treatable. Usually be BPD comes other addictions, drugs, alcohol, promiscuity, etc.

They are very sensitive people and will love like no other and will stay in bad relationships too long. But if they kick the addiction become aware of their emotions it is very treatable.

On a positive side, they are hell on wheels in the sack, super intense sex.

Good luck

 

[he_dblhockeystx]

I dated a bi-polar girl for a couple months. She was always talking about suicide, like everyday I had to hear about it. she ended up cutting one of her wrists one night and That was it for me. I ain’t nobodies savior.

 

[Pulledclear]

Im going to let you in on a little secret. They are all fkng crazy. If you find one thats not call Ripley. He wont believe it. You have a better chance finding Sasquatch.

 

[Knightrofins]

I always hoped for better times with her,but it never happened,i thought maybe a new med would work,nope.The sex was fantastic by the way!!! I was a fool to stay in the relationship that long,but live and learn i guess,broke up 3 years ago,glad i'm still alive

Just curious. Have you heard from her at all? Through phone, social media, friend, etc?

Just wondering if she has gotten any better

 

[bigbet1234]

Just curious. Have you heard from her at all? Through phone, social media, friend, etc?

Just wondering if she has gotten any better

Are you asking for a friend? Lol

 

[Knightrofins]

Are you asking for a friend? Lol

Haha.

 

[THawk+]

Do yourself a favor and get out and have nothing to do with her. IF you want to keep your sanity and have a happy life, move on.

I have two friends who were with woman who were BPD and it was a living hell. They were never happy and had a sh it life.
They finally wised up and got out.

No matter how much you love and care for this woman your life will be a living hell!!!

You will be sacrificing your life and happiness to be with her. Nothing will be easy and you will always be walking on glass.
It will be a roller coaster and you never know what she will do.

Forgot to add do not have children with this woman, she can't be a good mother. You will be doing a disservice to the children..

It is a hard and difficult decision but leaving is the best option if you want to have a normal happy life.
Staying with a woman who has this will cause you great pain and anguish...

I hope and pray for you

 

[thetout]

shouldnt marry someone and then bail. unless violence starts, which i believe will. I dated one off the walls batshit crazy when she drank.

 

[HarryCaray]

Briefly dated a girl with bpd awhile back. She told me coming into the relationship. Kept me at arm's length for sure.
Great sex, as others have said.
Glad I got out.

 

[HarryCaray]

shouldnt marry someone and then bail.

Agreed, for the most part

 

[JustinCruise]

Dont we all lol

 

[beefdiesel]

All women are crazy.

 

[HarryCaray]

Dont we all lol

All women are crazy.

You don't get it.

 

[Dante]

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC1HE3FmZKWd4T0FAuTXC2XQ.


Polar warriors is a great youtube site.. my son has BPD we use it to get ideas on how to help and deal with him .. it's a very debilating diease.. if anyone is struggling with this albeit a family member or yourself check it out ..

 

[MattyMatt]

Run, Forrest, RUN...